To Make Up or Not to Make Up?

This blog is deeply personal for me. Since I started sharing posts on Better Vitiligo, the feedback I’ve received has been a mix of heartwarming support and tough-to-hear criticism. While friends have reached out to express gratitude and encouragement, some family members suggested that I wear makeup in my videos and photos, saying “I don’t look good enough.”

Let me tell you—comments like that hurt. They cut deep. But I’ve started to see them as part of my journey—a path of spiritual growth, self-acceptance, and learning to rise above negativity.

Why I Choose Not to Wear Makeup Daily

We’ve chosen a simple, off-grid lifestyle, intentionally stepping away from the rat race to focus on raising our family, traveling the world, and embracing diverse cultures. In this lifestyle, there’s no daily need for makeup.

Our outings aren’t to malls or formal events—they’re to beaches, mountains, local markets, and remote villages. The people we meet—fishermen, farmers, shopkeepers—are makeup-free, just living authentically. That feels freeing. There’s no pressure to “doll up” for anyone.

To be clear, if makeup brings you joy or confidence, that’s wonderful. But let’s not impose those expectations on others. Some of us are happy just as we are.

I still enjoy dressing up and wearing makeup for special occasions. But to me, true beauty is defined by kindness, how we treat others, and the connections we build—not by cosmetics.

Living in a Judgmental Society

Growing up in an Indian society, I’ve seen how appearances are often judged harshly. It’s ingrained in our culture, where people feel entitled to comment on everything—your looks, your choices, your lifestyle.

Navigating that judgment isn’t easy, and my heart goes out to anyone trapped in an environment where they feel pressured or criticized.

So how do we live among people who judge us? Honestly, I’m still figuring that out. But I believe that building inner resilience and surrounding ourselves with like-minded, supportive people can make a world of difference.

Reflections on Criticism and Moving Forward: Learning of the Week

Dealing with criticism, especially about something as personal as your appearance, is tough. But I’ve realized that criticism can be a powerful teacher—it shows us where we’ve grown and where we still need to heal. Here’s what I’ve learned this week, and what I’m actively working on:

Embrace Self-Acceptance

Criticism often stings because it echoes our own insecurities. For years, I struggled to accept my vitiligo and tried to conform to others’ expectations. But self-acceptance is the ultimate act of rebellion against negativity.

This week, I’ve been reminding myself to see beyond the patches and appreciate the person in the mirror—the life I’ve built, the joy I’ve found, and the growth I’ve achieved.

Eliminate Negative Energy

Not everyone deserves space in your life. Some people will always pull you down rather than lift you up. Let them go.

Surround yourself with people who celebrate your wins, accept your quirks, and encourage you to shine. Your tribe doesn’t have to be the one you were born into—it can be the one you choose.

Forgive, But Don’t Forget

Resentment gives criticism more power than it deserves. Forgiveness is about releasing that power and choosing peace.

That doesn’t mean letting those voices back into your space. As Tony Robbins says, “Forgive them, but keep moving forward.”

Learn to Filter Feedback

Not all criticism is equal. Some comments come from love, others from ignorance or malice. Ask yourself:

• Does this person’s opinion matter to me?

• Is this advice constructive, or is it just projection?

If it’s not helpful or aligned with your values, let it go. You can’t please everyone—and that’s okay.

Focus on Your Own Growth

Criticism often feels like a spotlight on your flaws, but it’s also an opportunity to grow—not to meet others’ standards, but to become the best version of yourself.

This week, I’ve been focusing on the values that matter to me: self-confidence, kindness, and authenticity.

Set Clear Boundaries

Protecting your peace isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Set boundaries with those who consistently bring you down and make space for positivity.

Celebrate Small Wins

Criticism can overshadow progress, but it’s important to recognize how far you’ve come. Did you stand up for yourself? Stay calm in the face of negativity? That’s progress worth celebrating.

This week, my win was sharing my true self on social media, knowing it might invite judgment. That was a step forward, and I’m proud of it.

Be Kind to Yourself

It’s okay to feel hurt by criticism—it doesn’t make you weak. What matters is how you move forward. Rest, reflect, and remind yourself of your worth.

These reflections are my “learning of the week.” Criticism isn’t a wall; it’s a mirror, showing us areas for growth.

What About You?

If you’ve faced similar experiences—whether it’s dealing with criticism, finding your tribe, or learning to let go—I’d love to hear your story.

Let’s support one another, share our tips, and create a space where we can rise above the noise and define beauty on our own terms.